I wanted to post about why I did the things I did. So I wrote a really long post talking about my relationship, all of our choices, all of the many intricate reasons that I made the decisions I made. But, really, I think it comes down to two things...
Yes, I wasn't getting my "emotional needs" met, but I think that people cheat for two reasons. They are selfish. And insecure. That's it.
2 comments:
When I was reading an earlier post I thought exactly what you said.
People that are content, happy and connecting with their spouse do NOT cheat. EVEN IF THERE IS NO SEX. (Are ya listening boys?)
In some relationships you have to wonder why you end up where you are.
Maybe you don't have to wonder anymore. There may be more to blame than what you have been beating yourself with for a long time now.
Have faith. Rejoice in Him. Make your life YOURS again.
I'll agree that the reasons you listed may be the leading reasons, and your reasons, for the action. But, I disagree that cheating is strictly a result of only these two things.
I further disagree that "happy, connecting" units don't cheat. There have been many studies by Psychologist on the subject of cheating. As it turns out, the majority of male cheaters are found to be perfectly happy, in general and with their significant other. It is important to note that the person with whom you're married or involved is NOT the only interesting, fascinating person on the planet, or the only person with whom you are compatible. Where things go wrong, I believe, is the secrecy. Deception stands to control another person's perception of his or her own reality. Everyone deserves to have all attainable and accurate information in order to understand their own "true" reality.
I mean no disrespect with my personal opinion. It should be noted that it does not take religion into account.
Charisse
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